Letter to a Bride

I thought I'd flesh out my first 'Priscilla' idea from the last post. What's it look like to be a good wife? No doubt there's more to be said than what's below, but this is just a short note I penned to a friend recently on the occasion of her hen's night. Perhaps a few timely reminders for all of us blessed to be wives.....

Dear friend…..

Wonderful days ahead! As you continue to prepare for your wedding day, don’t forget the importance of preparing for your marriage. There’s lots to do for that special day, just as there is much to consider for the days, weeks, months and years that come after the wedding.

Here’s a few thoughts I have….not that after 3.21 years I can claim to be an expert!

Men are soooooo different to us girls. But just because they’re different, doesn’t make them wrong or stupid or……… Appreciate your man for the differences he brings to your relationship. Sometimes you really need to look hard and think positive, but it is worth it. He’ll certainly appreciate it and you’ll be happier than when you focus on the negatives.

Wives are soooooo good for their husbands. The Bible even says so! Men need someone to love and respect them. Who think they are a hero. Who constantly express their thanks for their protection and provision. Who serve them. Who give good massages. Make sure you keep a generous heart towards your husband…and act on that often!

It’s soooooo fun to love your hubby. When you find out what his principle love languages are (acts of service, physical touch, words of affirmation, gifts or quality time) have fun putting into action ways that best tell him how much you love him. Be creative! And enjoy the consequences!

You sooooooo need God’s help to do marriage well. It was, after all, His grand plan and design so of course He has plenty to say about it. Make sure you search Scripture to discover what you are to do...be...say...show...in order to be ‘the crown of your husband’ (Proverbs 12:4).

And there’s soooooo much other helpful advice we can access to encourage us to ‘do’ being a wife really well. Podcasts and radio programs of Focus on the Family and Family Life Today….website: www.youngmarriedlife.com……books like ‘Intimate Issues’, ‘Fit to be Tied’, ‘His Needs Her Needs’, etc… are a few I have found useful.

Final tips...laugh a lot together...cuddle a lot...enjoy each other...always express gratitude to God and your husband...pray for him heaps...ask God to continue to help you be a wonderful helper, cheer-leader, lover...enjoy the journey – together:)

Blessings to you!

Kirsty VI